jusummerhayes (jusummerhayes) wrote,

Stuck...in the middle

“If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten. -- Anthony Robbins

“I was walking among the fires of Hell, delighted with the enjoyments of Genius; which to Angels look like torment and insanity.” -- William Blake

There’s not a day that passes where I’m not asked what I do. If I were to come up with a job title, i.e. ‘lawyer’, people would know what to ask next or how to interact with me, but, more often than not, my reply is hesitant, not to say a little unhelpful. (If I default to anything, I’ll say ‘coach’ or ‘consultant’, but it’s far from a perfect fit.)

The truth of the matter is there’s only one clear ‘label’ to describe my work: helping people deal with change.

As we all know, change is never easy, but there’s no point talking about those aspects of your life you wish were otherwise unless you’re prepared to pull up the drawbridge to yesteryear, look at the world through a different pair of glasses and then make the necessary change.

In terms of where my focus goes, I normally get people to look at two things:

1. habits; and
2. mindset.

In most cases, if they’re prepared to adopt the idea of Kaizen (incremental change) in their daily lives, it’s amazing what they can achieve. Likewise, if they approach their stuckness with a different mindset -- beginner’s mind is usually the most helpful -- then it’s hard for our inner critic to overrule us, particularly if we back that up with forward momentum.

Of course, this is no more than a scant overview of what I do, but the key message is that each of us was born with genius, and our role in life is to realise our full, beautiful, God-given potential. In other words, and notwithstanding our egoic tendencies, we don’t just want to pass through life on autopilot: we want to know that we left our mark, for the good of everything and everyone.

In hindsight, if anyone had asked me if this ‘change’ work would be how I’d end up spending the rest of my days, I’m sure I would have thought them deluded. But, for reasons often unclear to me, I feel inextricably drawn to serve people, not to bask in their triumphs or success stories, but simply to know that their amazing talent, brilliance and, yes, genius didn’t go to waste, locked away by years of conditioning and artificial stereotyping.

Onwards...forever onwards.

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