Change the story
“There's always a story. It's all stories, really. The sun coming up every day is a story. Everything's got a story in it. Change the story, change the world.”
― Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky
What story are you living?
One you were told?
Of course, we're all a unique expression of the Universe (1580s, "the whole world, cosmos, the totality of existing things," from Old French univers (12c.), from Latin universum "all things, everybody, all people, the whole world,") despite the fact that we think we live separate and apart from it.
It must be that we see things from a dualistic perspective, or at least never question things, because, otherwise (apart from anything else), we wouldn't treat the earth, and (sometimes) other people are as a thing or object to be purloined to our needs and wants.
What am I really pointing to?
As I've opined before, we think we're in charge of our lives.
We think we can direct it in any way we like; if that were not the case why do we buy into the narrative (amongst many) that we can become anything we like in this world if only we applied ourselves in the right way — "Think positive!".
But you can't.
You're not in charge, literally.
You are, in very simple terms, an expression of nature and it's only when you go to your direct experience that you start to appreciate that although you appear to have wants, interests and desires, you don't will or make them, much in the same way that you don't have any influence of your growth, ageing or death.
If only we'd consider our storyline which says we're this autonomous thing among a universe of things that thinks it's somehow in charge.
And of course, for most people, hearing this message let alone trying to weave it into their complex lives fills them with complete dread.
"You mean all of this is a fiction?"
"Well, yes, of sorts."
And so, they go right back to the beginning living in the space the Buddha called Duḥkha.
From there, you can see why it is that we're at the mercy of our thoughts, feelings and emotions because we think there's a 'me' that can do something about them. That mostly means trying to order our outer lives to make us feel better. But, in case you hadn't noticed, even the most luscious, hedonistic, gorgeous feeling never lasts forever. It can't. Indeed, if you had everything you thought you ever needed, sooner or later you'd suffer from a state of ennui.
To be honest, I know that this non-dual message that I write and speak about isn't going to, nor is it supposed to, do anything more than invite (perhaps) a different set of questions to those you've previously posited — e.g. What am I?, What's happening in this moment? — but beyond that, I've no expectation of anything. If you do think of changing your story (no this isn't how liberation happens) then wonderful. Equally, if you stick with your existing narrative, then, again, that's equally beautiful. Everything, and I mean everything, is an expression of nature; and you can no more will a change of story than you can exercise, because someone told you it was good for you, against a lifetime of inactivity.
To repeat: (in case others might tell you otherwise) you're a unique expression of nature and will go on presenting yourself in the only way you can — story or no story.
If you're interested, I offer a limited number of places for coaching clients where I ask you to consider your direct experience of life and what it means to awaken to true self.