jusummerhayes (jusummerhayes) wrote,

Why don't you change?

“One is never afraid of the unknown; one is afraid of the known coming to an end.” -- J Krishnamurti

Why don’t you change?

Have you ever seriously asked that question?

No, I mean it.

When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror (or on your phone!), and asked the profound question:

Why can’t I change?


Of what? (Perhaps you like things the way they are.)

If you change, what will you do with the rest of your life?

These few questions, and a host of similarly challenging ones, don’t deserve of an easy or flippant answer. In fact, for many people they represent their life’s work. But they do need to be asked, daily.

I suspect, though, for the majority of people, they’ve stopped asking the question (or any question, beyond ‘How do I get through the day?).


Only you can answer that.

In putting this question out there, I fully accept that it applies as much, if not more so, to me. But, as I continue to explore my life, and look at some of the milestones that have made me who I am, I recognise that change is the most serious test I’ve ever faced.

In the end, though, it’s a choice. We either wish to change or we don’t. And, for all the well-meaning people who would ask or demand change of you, ask yourself does that come from a position of love or control?

PS. The idea for this post came from this wonderful video by J Krishnamurti whose quote I’ve kindly borrowed above.


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