“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” -- Marcus Aurelius
You are not your mind -- the thinking and conditioned parts.
If that is right, why are you trying to change everything and everyone?
Imagine a world of contemplation, acceptance and love, absent the past (or the future) tugging at your little self.
For most people, it’s impossible.
It might come as a crushing defeat (or it might light up your soul), but to awaken is to see that everything, good or bad, is what makes life complete.
I continue to wrestle with the inner critic, the ego, the tiny self; but without wanting to sound like you need a cure or system, if you’re willing to let go, not follow or engage with your thoughts, then in that moment everything, and I mean everything, changes.