“Don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to make it logical; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.”
― Franz Kafka
Please don't think me judgmental but I long for real conversation not (as is so often the case) a waspish opinion, criticism or outright condemnation.
At the other end of the spectrum, there's a tendency to play it safe and revert to a time-honoured list of subjects that are designed not to offend anyone.
It's what sits in the middle that attracts me.
I'm sure I'm already out of my depth and likely to offend someone for even suggesting there's something wrong with the status quo but (and this isn't said for effect) I'm sick to death of the same moribund things being said over and over.
And before someone fingers me, I'm as guilty as the next person in not speaking my truth by often reverting to tomfoolery to avoid the tension and difficulty that's bound to ensue if I say what's really on my mind. But I wonder what we're missing — if, of course, I'm right with what I'm trying to say?
As an experiment, the next time you're in conversation ask yourself either of the following:
a) what's the real issue that's not being spoken?
b) is there another, more important conversation that exists betwixt the spaces in the words spoken?
(Don't forget, language is everything.)( Collapse )