March 6th, 2020

speaker, coach, consultant

Mission critical

Who was it that said we've got to find our purpose and then go smash it?

I've no idea, but I'd love to know why we so easily buy into the narrative?

What even is (a) purpose?

Something we commit our life to achieving? 

If it is the sine qua non of life, why then isn't it taught? Duh! You can't teach purpose, surely. 


Well, judging by all the bios I read of people in the 'fix-anything' space, you'd think it was as easy as disappearing behind a mirror and remerging as a brand new person or even wearing someone else's clothes, just like my middle daughter does with her elder sibling.

Please don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying that sometimes a little nudge isn't constructive in helping us to find a brand new path, but these days I'm of the school that says: we're the moved, not the mover.

And I realise that's not exactly popular — hell, it might even be my ruination — because it doesn't sell anything. 

What do I mean?

I mean: you don't will your will. Or, in less abstract terms, if you go to the root of any decision, you'll find it impossible to trace why you did one thing over another. That's not to say you'll not explain it away, but I can't tell you why I chose to leave home aged 19 and not later or at all, any more than I can explain the urge every day to write and share these posts.

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