February 26th, 2020

speaker, coach, consultant

The pain inside

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” ― Brad Meltzer

I was awake just after 4 am. Thankfully, I avoided the desire to get up and dozed until 5 am.

The coffee ☕ is poured; the central heating is keeping my little office super cosy; and it's a brand new day — yah, I'm still here 😄.

I thought carefully about what I might write about today and, try as I might, I couldn't get the above rubric out my mind. What kept coming up was a short Twitter exchange that I'd had yesterday, acknowledging an acquaintance's pain at rarely being heard but at last finding someone who was willing to ask a simple but profound question — "How are you today?" — and then (I assume) with grace and love listen to the answer.

You see the thing is, at least for me, we rarely see the other person (whoever they are...), less still hear them.

Just to be clear, my issue, whether in a work setting or otherwise, is it's very difficult for all of us to open up and discuss what's really going on in our lives. And whilst I'm sure there are many reasons, cogent or otherwise, to keep quiet — and here I talk from personal experience — I think every so often we need to break asunder our silence in a safe, caring and, I hope, nourishing way, otherwise we carry around a brokenheartedness that, if we're not careful, can slowly eat us alive.

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speaker, coach, consultant

Gym etiquette

This is going to sound terribly snobbish, but in my day there was an etiquette to training in the gym. Swearing, throwing weights around in a dangerous manner and putting your shit away was the order of the day. Nowadays, at least for a few people, they don't seem to care how they behave. It's no wonder some people feel uncomfortable in going. 

PS. And, in case you're wondering, it's the guys who are the culprits.