speaker, consultant, coach

Going back to basics

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” -- Dale Carnegie

“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” -- Dale Carnegie

“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.” -- Dale Carnegie

I’m listening to How to Win Friends and Influence People, hence the above quotes. Yes, it’s dated, but its messaging is still as apposite today as when it was published over 80 years ago.

Perhaps I’m in the minority, but I can’t help question why everyone seems intent on trying to develop something new when in reality it’s all been said and done before. In fact, it’s worse than that: there is way too much knowledge and way too little wisdom.

The thing is, as much as we might wish it otherwise, our life (in all its glory) is still our best teacher. You only need look at those areas of your life that aren’t working -- health, wealth and happiness -- to know what you should focus on.

I know you’ll think I sound like a broken record with all this 'change talk' but rather than buy the latest business best-seller or mega-star authored book, I would suggest you get a pen and piece of paper and spend 10 minutes writing down a few things that you need to change or develop.

In my case, I know that I need to be less critical of others and myself, control my anger, express my love more deeply and to let go completely of past conditioning. These and a whole slew of other issues are more than enough to keep me focused on the journey ahead, without having to read or listen to any new material. To be clear, I’m not saying I wouldn’t learn anything but I know what I’ve got to do to change my behaviour without filling my head with more new ideas.

What about you?